Back when the book was a memoir, I wrote this About the Book overview for my book proposal. Lots of positive responses from agents, but it didn’t hook a big fish as I’d hoped. Some of this copy made it into the A Note from the Author introduction within the book, but not all of it. Why do you think?
My life has always been filled with booze and heartache. I grew up in backwoods Kansas around shotgun-toting beer guzzlers believing that Pabst Blue Ribbon was a luxury product. Before I’d turned 18, my parents had broken up and reunited more times than Whitney Houston and Bobby Brown. It should come as no surprise that I’ve amassed 50 ex-boyfriends—and learned how to do a keg stand before I could legally drive.
Based on two decades of struggling to find passion at home and at work, The Exes in My iPod: A Playlist of the Men Who Rocked Me to Wine Country tracks my transformation from redneck waitress to refined wine maven—a bewildering journey from lust to love and beer to wine told through a playlist of ex-boyfriend songs. The irony that I come from a line of drinkers and have spent 15 years marketing some of the world’s most prestigious wines is still hard to swallow today.
When I got my first iPod®, I had the unexplainable urge to create the kind of playlist every girl wants to keep on solitary lockdown … at least from my man and my family. It’s called “The Exes”—a compilation of songs that instantly teleported me to memories of a motley crew of ex-boyfriends. And when I listened, I didn’t feel compelled to crush my iPod® with a sledgehammer.
My Exes playlist helped me free a labyrinth of skeletons locked deep in the closet of my psyche—a pot-smoking scuba diver, a bisexual cocaine addict, a military man with a top-secret wife, three Latin lovers, a divorced restaurant manager and a winemaker just for starters. Using lucky 13 songs, The Exes in My iPod: A Playlist of the Men who Rocked Me to Wine Countrywill inspire readers to relive their relationship failures through their own Exes playlists and discover the hidden beauty of all that baggage—our relationship failures make us who we are. They pave our paths in life. They are assets, not liabilities. It was my destiny to figure out the key to real love through mind-numbing trial and error—and for my not-so-straight or narrow road to Mr. Right to stretch from the cornfields of Kansas to Florida’s beaches to California wine country.
Undiagnosed with some rare form of optimism, I found the bright side in my naiveté with men by listening to music. You can too. At the heart of this journey is my hard-won struggle to learn the power of self-respect and the reward of real love—where sex comes second. The Exes in My iPod: A Playlist of the Men who Rocked Me to Wine Country is a reassuring and real reminder of the powerful bond between music, emotions, and memories that continues to transcend time and technology.
Are you ready to play?